So, it's been a while

The funniest thing is that I pay for this site. Silly little spendthrift that I am. Compared to paying for a gym membership and never using the gym (a thing I stopped doing a few years ago. Ha HA.) paying for a site where at least things I used to write still exist feels better. Not great, but better.

It's not that nothing happened in the last nine months or so. So many things happened. I saw about ten million plays (indeed, at one point, Imogen Poots showered me with stage blood. That was unexpected.), danced with strangers at a New Year's Eve ceili, read some excellent books (have you read Lincoln in the Bardo?  Or Sing, Unburied, Sing?  You should do that.), bade farewell to my upstairs neighbors and their numerous motorcycles, made some really good muffins, did a couple of shows, was busy to an unprecedented degree at work. I'm not saying that I couldn't have written about all of those things, but here we are.

In just two days, in my big Auntie Mame moment, I am taking my niece, a newly minted high school graduate, to Europe. She's never been, which means I'm the one who gets to see her face the first time she encounters the Eiffel Tower and The Globe Theatre, and the labyrinth of Central Amsterdam's canals. I can't wait. But I'm even more excited about getting to teach her how to read a Metro map and that buildings have door codes and that it's a good idea to hit the light switch on every landing, so you don't end up in the middle of the last flight in the pitch dark. I want her to know the quotidian details. And then, I want her to go back again and again. Fingers crossed that she'll want to.

Little Green Apples


On Wednesday night, a crowd of us gathered at the Great American Music Hall to celebrate Green Apple Books' 50th Anniversary by way of Porchlight. Several well-known people told stories filled with bookstore boosterism (possibly my favorite kind of boosterism) and a few people sang heartrending songs (definitely my favorite kind of song). One singer who had a very winning "aw shucks, ma'am. It's my first time in the big city" type vibe, proved upon later Google search, to be the critically-acclaimed author of several novels.  Another man, unscheduled to speak, was plucked from the crowd and introduced as a bartender and former Green Apple employee. Friends, to hear a Glaswegian recount being buried in an avalanche of hardbacks in the '89 earthquake is a delectation you do not know you long for until the very moment the Scottish vowels of "earthquake" unfurl before you. The man is a born orator. As far as I'm concerned,  he's the goddamn King of the North.

There was also a racy Mary Poppins burlesque number, complete with sparkling black umbrella and one faulty pasty.  Mergatroid, the Green Apple gnome, was there too, handing out free books.  Natch.

In other words, it felt like home.  My San Francisco.  It's still here after all. 

After the show, I went merrily along with with an assortment of book people and story people to Tommy's Joynt, the slightly dubious late-night hauf brau that has been on the corner of Van Ness and Geary my entire life.  I'm pleased to report that no one has ever looked more delighted with anything than the "aw shucks" singer/novelist looked with his cafeteria tray of roast beef dinner.  

After a couple hours of alcohol and general conversation, people recalled their adult responsibilities and headed home, leaving just five of us: me, Beth, the King of the North, and two of his friends who had happened along. He announced that duty required him to resume his post at the bar down the street. I demurred since it was nearly 1AM and a school night.  So, the four of them made their way down Geary, and I turned the corner reluctantly to go home.

From the end of the block, I saw three men leaning on what I thought was my car and braced myself for the imminent confrontation. As I got nearer, I realized that, not for the first time, I had confused someone else's prosaic black sedan with my own prosaic black sedan. Suffused with the particular brand of relief that is not having to talk to strange men at 1AM in the Tenderloin, I reached my own Toyota. 

As I unlocked it, something felt wrong. The interior light didn't come on as usual when I opened the door. Why?  It took me a strangely long time to diagnose the problem, considering it was not an unfamiliar one. I looked at the open glove compartment and the trash on the passenger seat and slowly, slowly it dawned on me.  "Oh." I said aloud. "Someone broke into my car is what."  I groped for the overhead light and once it was on, I realized that 1) nothing had actually been stolen. Including my dinner leftovers. Including my library book. 2) only the back, passenger side vent window had been broken.  This explained why I hadn't immediately understood what had happened.  The smallest of windows?  In the back? On the passenger side?  This is practically courtly behavior.  Never before had my car been broken into in such a gentlemanly fashion. Nevertheless, no matter how decorously one may do it, a break in is a break in and I didn't want my glittering evening to end so darkly.

I drove around the block and found a parking place right in front of the bar. When I walked in, my friends were sitting around a table just inside the door. "Heyyyyyyy!" they all called out happily, raising their arms in greeting, for all the world as though I were Norm, back at last, where everybody knew my name.  

There was just one empty chair at the table, waiting for me.  I stayed until 2.


I called for an appointment today and the window replacement will run me 120 bucks, which seems like a lot for such a comparatively small piece of glass, but then, someone else bought my Wednesday night gin and tonic, so I think it all evens out.

Le mot juste

I'm driving to work and listening to NPR.  Because swearing takes a lot of my attention while I drive these days, I miss the full context of the current news story. Something, I believe, about a large group of immigrants making their way over the border from Mexico, only to immediately turn themselves in to American authorities.

The newscaster in the studio is talking to a reporter on the scene. 

"Allison, I've been calling this 'a situation'; help me be more precise.  Should I be calling it 'a crisis'? Something else?"

"Well, Bill, I think it could be called 'an ongoing situation' and yesterday, it was really 'an event'."

We are now officially living in Will Eno'sTragedy: a tragedy.


Bending the map - II

Note: the ensuing tale will make no sense to 99% of people for whom the obvious solution would be to look to their smartphone for answers. I do not have a smartphone. That is another [very boring] story altogether.

When I returned home at last from my underground misadventures, I discovered that due to the vagaries of babysitters and parental logistics, a friend who hoped she could, would not, after all, be able to join me at the theatre the next night. I sent a confessional "I just got on the wrong train" email to my MoMa companion and inquired whether, if he had not yet grown sick of me, he would like to come to the play.

He would, he said.

We planned that I would come meet him immediately after work and we would walk to the theatre together. He knew of a restaurant along the way where he suggested we have dinner. He even offered to let me park in his garage to avoid being ticketed since he lives in the huge swath of San Francisco that allows only for two-hour parking between 9am-9pm. This was as tidy a plan as I could have hoped for. I like having a plan.

I had never been to his house, but it was only a dozen blocks from my school and I could picture the corner very clearly, having turned there innumerable times. There is a very large block of new(ish) condos there, converted from what used to be a university extension campus. I don't much care for these condos, much as I do not care for any of the new condos that are proliferating all over the city, looking both identically "modern" and, to me, cheap.  Mind you, in terms of rent, they are the opposite of cheap, which is exactly why I think they ought to look better than they do. When my friend told me he lived on this corner, I felt a pang of disappointment, in fact, as if keeping my friends from living in it would somehow cause this building to cease existing. 

The complex is so large that it has addresses on three different streets. I assumed that the parking garage would be similarly baroque, so I parked temporarily on the street until I could get the lowdown from my friend. I walked down the block of my friend's street and was baffled to discover that his address did not exist. The door that I assumed would be his turned out to be #155, but his address is #200.  

Here are things I knew from conversation the night before:

1. He had lived in the building a comparatively short time.  
2. The building had a roof terrace.
3. The building had a garage.

Here are the things that meant he must indubitably live in the building at 155 even though his address was 200:

1. The building had only existed for a short time, so there was no way he could have lived there a long time.
2. The building had a flat roof.
3. The building had a garage.

I walked up and down the block growing increasingly bewildered.  The next building after #155 is, mysteriously, #65. I walked back toward the complex and up the huge flight of stairs between its various buildings. The addresses got farther from 200 and swiftly attributed to another street altogether.   I asked a passerby for help, but he didn't live there. I walked back to #65 in case it had become #200 in the last four minutes.  A girl with a yoga mat asked if she could help.  I repeated my mystery and we walked back up the block together as she peered hopefully at the same buildings I had recently peered hopefully at myself. She was sympathetic and wished me well. I approached a lady sitting with her laptop on her tiny porch.  She didn't know either, but suggested I go ask the attendant in the parking garage. I was very heartened to learn that there was an attendant in the parking garage. He would solve all my problems.  

I walked the half-block back to the garage and found the attendant.  "I'm sorry to bother you. I'm supposed to meet my friend at #200, but I can't find the address and I don't have his phone number. Do you have some kind of tenant list? Could we call him?"  "Hmmm," he said. "There may be a list, but I don't know where.  It's my first day. We could page my manager!  ...But he probably won't call for like an hour."   He suggests we ask a lady who was just getting out of her car.  "Excuse me?" he says. She glares at us. "Sorry," I say. I'm looking for #200."  "This is #155." she says, as if reciting her own address is the most unreasonably taxing thing she's been asked to do all day.

Since the attendant and I already knew that this was #155, we are not all that encouraged. He brightens, though, and suggests that he look up the address on a map.  We walk back out to the sidewalk and he points out that if this is #155, then #200 would have to be on the other side of the street.  While this is in keeping with the logic of all city streets, it is completely at odds with my unwavering certainty that my friend lives in these condos. Nevertheless, we both peer at the buildings across the street, none of which look like condos with accessible roofs.  What's more, the numbering of their addresses includes even more erratic leaps than from 155 to 65.

He inputs the address into his phone and we share what is both a Eureka moment and a total dismantling of everything I think I understand.  I am in the wrong block.  He points up the hill and diagonally across the street. "It should be that white building," he tells me.  I thank him profusely and make my way toward my new, un-condo-looking, garage-less destination.  There is a small side door at #200 directing delivery people around the corner to a completely different address on the intersecting street. I stare at this sign for a longish while, willing it to say something else.  Something like my friend's name or maybe building regulations regarding the roof terrace. 

I walk up and down the block a bit, just in case a condo suddenly materializes and then I give up.  I'm already a half an hour late and all I can think to do is go back to work and send an email admitting defeat. I get back in my car and on the seat  is the scrap of paper on which I had written the address which is, in fact, #201.  

And there, right on the corner where it is meant to be, across the block-dividing street from the new condo complex, is a respectable San Franciscan-looking building, all bay windows and contrasting trim, whose Italianate facade disguises the secret flatness of its roof.

I panicked anew looking at the bank of unmarked doorbells, until I saw one helpfully labeled with my friend's name. When he came down to open the garage for me I uncorked a babbling stream of apology, concern for my obviously rapidly diminishing sanity, and self loathing for not having had the tiny fleck of intelligence required to have asked for his phone number.  "Oh." he said when I finally paused to breathe, "I put my number in the last email I sent you."


He stood by his open garage while I went to get my car. But as I turned into the driveway, the parking space directly outside his front door opened up. According to the street sign, unlike the vexing 9pm cutoff on every other block in the neighborhood, this one required a residential permit only until 6pm. By this point profoundly skeptical about my ability to park in a garage and later find my way back out. I snagged it.

As we walk to the restaurant, my friend explains to me that when hikers or other outdoor adventurers do what I've been doing for the last two days, that is, deciding that their own certainty about direction trumps all evidence to the contrary, it's called bending the map.  Generally, of course, this happens on an unmarked trail, where every step in the wrong direction may be leading you closer to your untimely death.  But I like to think it takes someone special to do it at home in a well-mapped metropolis where each false conclusion radically increases the likelihood of two perfectly good theatre tickets going to waste.

Bending the map - I


A friend I haven't seen in years gets in touch and we arrange to meet downtown at the MoMa. I arrive flushed and breathless having underestimated the time it would take me to get home from work, leave my car there, get on a rush-hour BART train, and walk from the station to the museum. I am quite invested in my Experienced Local persona and this rookie mistake rankles. My friend is gracious and unflappable, while I am exactly the opposite: flapping gracelessly around like an ill tempered pigeon, making frantic unnecessary apologies while blaming everything except myself: the train, the traffic, the gazillion other people who have had the temerity to move here and get in my way.  Kindly, he proposes that we begin with a drink in the museum café. Over a glass of overpriced (but museum-underwriting) rosé I eventually regain enough composure to first converse normally and then appreciate art.

Some hours later, replete with Diane Arbus and tomato soup, we go for a walk. We westward ho ourselves homeward down Market Street, continuing farther than I expect through the unsavory bits, but without incident. When we reach the Van Ness station, we part ways; I descend to the subway and he continues home on foot.

I head down to the platform, disappointed to see that there is a 15-minute wait for my train and that there is an skittish-looking man walking around with a big stick (is it a mop handle without a mop?  Is it a shuffleboard stick without a game in sight?) with whom I'd rather not spend 15 minutes.

On my line, there are only ever one-car trains, which means you have to go all the way to the end of the platform to be able to board.  The good news is, this will put considerable distance between me and the stick man.  When I get to my usual spot, I am briefly disoriented because the bench where I had planned to spend my 15 minutes has vanished entirely.  It was one of those big concrete circles, which seems to be a popular design, though I don't know why since it's very likely that you'll end up on a part of the curve that keeps you from seeing either approaching train, which seems like exactly what you don't want in a a subway station bench, but no one asked me. In any case, it's gone now.  I assume it has been removed because homeless people were lying down on it. Certainly other benches have been redesigned with gaps or armrests to dissuade anyone from lying down, so it was probably only a matter of time before the circle bench came face-to-face with our homeless problem. Why anyone would want to lie down on a thing exactly as (un)comfortable as the bare floor, only far more public than any number of corners, is a mystery, but there it is.  Additionally, though the missing bench was an enormous slab of concrete balanced on another concrete post of considerable size, the empty floor I'm looking at, briefly slack-jawed with confusion, shows no marks of recent demolition, nor any particularly pristine new tile. No matter. Mystery solved by application of unassailable logic.

I walk back to the middle of the platform to some seats (with gaps between them. See?) where I can keep an eye on the guy with the stick in a large mirror, angled so train drivers can see if anyone is running for the train (and then either wait for them or hastily close the doors, depending on their mood).  At last the train arrives.  I notice that it doesn't pull as far into the station as it used to.  I decide that this is a new security measure, possibly only in place late at night, allowing people to stay closer to the middle of the station and, thus, the agent and the exit.  I smile at the driver and gratefully board the train.

The recorded announcement informs me that I am on an inbound J Church. I am headed outbound to home and shake my head at the sorry state of our public transportation, where the benches are gone, the maps are incomprehensible, and even the recorded information is unreliable.

We reach the next station. Civic Center.  The same station my friend and I had bypassed on foot about 25 minutes earlier. That is, the next station, inbound. I disembark and wait on the outbound platform for another 15 minutes (where there is a guy way creepier than the stick guy having an argument with a battered suitcase) until the very same train comes back around. I recognize the driver, but this time, I avoid making eye contact with him. When we pull into the Van Ness station--all the way to the end of the platform--we were positioned directly across from a big, round concrete bench. 

Whenever I use the Van Ness station, I enter it from the other side of the street, so it is not so shocking that I got turned around or even that with San Francisco transport's notably lousy signage and weirdly subjective inbound/outbound system, that I might not have realized it. However, the fact that no amount of evidence convinced me that I was wrong, or spurred that thought to even enter my mind suggests that I have a great deal more self confidence than I realized. I really ought to be putting it to better use.